Posts filed under: Communication

Relationships and the urge of ‘fight or flight’

How to Stay When You Want to Flee Relationships are hard. Maintaining a happy coexistence with another human being – even someone you care deeply about – has its challenges. Like any living thing, relationships change over time and are......
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Family Ties: The Benefits of Prioritizing Meal Time Together

“What’s for dinner?” can be the most depressing and difficult question for busy parents to answer. After all, dinner is relentless. Night after night, whether you’re hitting the fast food drive-thru on the way to your kid’s lacrosse practice or......
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A Look at Human Connection, Post-Election

Moving Out of a Fixed Perspective through Compassionate Discourse You made it through the holidays and those challenging, awkward, possibly heated dinner table discussions about the election. Some of those people you may not see again for another year, yet......
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The Sacrifice of Always Being Right

The need to be right is a common human trait. We all want to look our best in front of others, but when does that need cross over to being more destructive than constructive? And is it useful in the......
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10 Ways to Boost Your Confidence and Get What You Want

Our therapists often hear from clients that, in relationships of many kinds (with bosses, coworkers, significant others, partners, friends, family) they lack the confidence to ask for what they need. In an effort to avoid being seen as pushy, demanding......
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Parenting with Purpose

Purposeful Parenting: Summer Playtime Carving out meaningful time with each of your children every day can simultaneously sound like a no-brainer and — in the midst of all the scheduled activities and day-to-day responsibilities — a daunting task.  As parents,......
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Reignite the Fireworks (Not the 4th of July kind)

Keep the Fireworks in Your Marriage – And Be a Good Parent New parents, as well as those who have been at it for a while, can find themselves  drifting apart as they put more and more effort into caring......
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This Mother’s Day: Think Outside the Hallmark Card

In popular culture, mothers are often revered as both the backbone of our families and vilified as the source of all our problems. For better or worse, mothers shape who we are. And this Sunday, we honor them. It’s been said that motherhood......
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So Your Teen is Dating? How to Lead By Example in Relationships

Teen Dating Few words spark more concern for a parent. The realities of dating make teenagers uncomfortable as well. Parents worry about an increase in risky behavior and the drama that can come with dating. Teens face all the social......
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Assert Yourself!

By Marta Oko-Riebau This post is about your right to communicate your thoughts, wishes and intentions in a clear manner. It is about assertiveness. Most of us occasionally forget about this important right and then have to suffer the consequences......
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Healthy Relationships: The Art of Compromises, Not Sacrifices

By Marta Oko-Riebau Ava always wanted to have a house with a garden and a Siamese cat that she would call “Sphinx”. Growing up at her parent’s apartment she was not allowed to have pets because her parents considered them......
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Is DEFENSEiveness your best offense?

by Claudia Gray, MA, LPC On many levels, it is a really good thing to know how to defend ourselves. However, too much of a good thing can get in our way and make life harder and less joyful. When......
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Can You Hear Me Now?

by Hazel Field Melmed, LCSW We have all heard that communication is a key ingredient for good relationships, yet many of us struggle to express ourselves in the best way possible in order to get what we want or need.......
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Family Communication 101

by Chris Lewis, Ed.S., LPC Parent: Pick up your room! Child: I will, I will. Parent: Pick it up NOW! Child: Okay, okay! Parent: I said NOW, YOUNG MAN, and I MEAN NOW! Child: Okay! Get off my back! Parent:......
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She’s Your Mother, Too: 3 Tips for Cooperation Amongst Siblings with Aging Parents

by Lisa Ransford, LPC, CAC II   Life’s challenges are not supposed to paralyze you; they’re supposed to help you discover who you are. — Bernice Johnson Reagon There are two things in life that are certain: aging parents and......
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3 Key Features of a Successful Marriage

by Chris Lewis, Ed.S., LPC Leo Tolstoy, in the classic novel Anna Karenina, said that “Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” While I am not willing to say I completely agree that......
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Connect with Your Kids

by Joel Silverman, MA, LPC “Please put the cell phone away!” I hear myself say with more than a little irritation to my teenage son as we make yet another attempt to sit at the dinner table for more than......
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Three Commandments of Unhappy Families (And How to Break Them)

by Chris Lewis, Ed.S., LPC There are actually a lot of rules that govern unhappy families, but here are three that I come across often while working with families, going to (eavesdropping at) the grocery store, eating (spying) at restaurants,......
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Five Dumb Things Divorced Parents Say Translated to Kidspeak

Chris Lewis, EdS, LPC Trust me. I know what it’s like. You’ve just had the billionth phone call from the ex about why he can’t take the kids again this weekend after you’ve made, and cancelled and made again, plans......
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