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The Psychology of Self-Harm

Self-harm Adolescence, that complex time of sorting out what it means to be an adult when you’re still a kid, can feel like a long string of missteps with, perhaps, a few intermittent successes.  This is often when we first......
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It’s Not About the Food: What You Should Know About Eating Disorders

Eating disorders are a group of conditions that have been identified as a medical illness with biological, physical, emotional and psychological components that contribute to how they manifest, how they are perceived and how they are treated.  There is no......
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So Your Teen is Dating? How to Lead By Example in Relationships

Teen Dating Few words spark more concern for a parent. The realities of dating make teenagers uncomfortable as well. Parents worry about an increase in risky behavior and the drama that can come with dating. Teens face all the social......
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The Word of the Year: Mindfulness – What is it? What can it do for me?

What is mindfulness? “Mindfulness is a state of relaxed and alert attention of the present moment. It involves focusing just on what’s happening now,” writes clinical psychologist Sophie Henshaw. A lack of mindfulness manifests in several ways: constant racing thoughts,......
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Positive Outcomes: Stop carrying that invisible weight!

It’s a common theme these days: I have everything I need and things are generally okay, but I have an ongoing sense of unease… Something is missing or preventing me from fully experiencing life… I want to feel that there......
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Positive Outcomes: Finding a Healthy ‘New Normal’

Do you believe that depression, anxiety, fear, and emptiness are the new ‘normal’? Have you given up on the idea that you can change your life because “nothing works”? Then please read on… there is an explanation for why you......
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New Year, New View: Resolve Your Motivation Behind New Year Resolutions

Whether you are among the 45% of Americans who usually make New Year’s resolutions, or you are in the 38% who never make them (Statistics Brain Research Institute, 2015), chances are at some point you have wanted to make a......
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Honoring Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.’s Legacy, Humanity, and Strength of Mind

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” – Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. This year we honor Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. on January 18 with a......
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With Us in Spirit: Honoring Lost Loved Ones

Honoring lost loved ones can help ease grief Despite the wealth of books and blogs on the topic, the experience of grieving is, in many ways, uncharted territory. Grief is personal and variable. You may think you know how you......
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Navigating Spiritual and Cultural Differences During the Holidays

  As if there isn’t enough built-in stress this time of year, the conversation around December holidays has a new wrinkle. The topic of how to acknowledge and celebrate the holidays has taken on greater importance in recent years —......
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Give More, Spend Less: Not All Holiday Gifts Have to be Bought

Honor the Spirit of Giving The holiday gift-giving season is in full swing and got us thinking about ways to honor the true meaning of “giving.” (Hint: It has little to do with buying stuff that most people don’t really......
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The Family You Make For Yourself

More than any other time of the year, the holiday season emphasizes family. Images of happy families gathered around a Thanksgiving feast are all over television commercials and magazines. Everyone seems to be making plans to be somewhere with family.......
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Learning That Your Child May be a Bully: “My kid did WHAT?!”

  How did my kid become a bully and what can I do about it? So, it turns out your sweet bundle of joy is not so sweet to everyone. Perhaps you’ve suspected this, but have chosen to chalk it......
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Facing Bullying as an LGBT Teen

Teenage years are full of challenges as we all try to figure out how we ‘fit’ into the world around us. A lot of that experience is painful, especially when we find that we don’t ‘fit’ at all with some......
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How to Keep the Media from Increasing Your Stress: Media Coverage Perpetuates Stigma Surrounding Mental Health, Series Conclusion

In our third and final post for the Media Coverage and Mental Health series, we explored how the news stigmatizes mental illness and misrepresents the vast majority of those who seek mental health care. Most Americans had likely never heard......
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How to Keep the Media from Increasing Your Stress: Sydney’s Story, Part Two of Three

 This is the second of a series of three posts looking at how incessant media coverage in this day and age of sensational, and too often disturbing headlines, can impact your mental health. In our first post, we explored the......
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How to Keep the Media from Increasing Your Stress: A Three Part Series

Over the next three posts, we’re going to look at media coverage in relation to mental health through the following questions: What are the general effects of the deluge of information media coverage feeds to the public? How does the......
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Falling Back in Love

Marta Oko-Riebau, MA A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person. – Mignon McLaughlin Remember that time when you were madly in love with your partner? It was enough to be in the same......
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Things That Matter the Most

Marta Oko-Riebau, MA Let’s hurry to love people, they vanish so quickly And all that’s left behind are empty shoes, a deaf phone… Only what’s unimportant drags on forever, That what really matters happens much too quickly… Don’t be certain there’s......
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Demystifying Psychotherapy

By Marta Oko-Riebau Ever since I started studying psychology I began to encounter people’s mistrust associated to my profession of choice. Friends started to joke, “You must have diagnosed all of us already,” (and based on their behavior I knew......
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Committed to Porn

By Marta Oko-Riebau Linda and Jerry were a great couple. They truly enjoyed each other’s company, had great conversations, and laughed a lot together, even six years after they got married. There was one thing however that was not great:......
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Prisoners of Personality?

By Marta Oko-Riebau  “I am what is mine. Personality is the original personal property.” – Norman O. Brown I have always been fascinated with personality and its impact on our lives. Personality determines how we interact with the environment, and......
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Perspectives in Counseling

by Lisa Ransford, LPC, CACII What is it that you find most difficult about committing to the process of psychotherapy?  There’s usually some degree of fear – fear of the unknown, fear of what you’ll discover, fear of change.  But......
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Feelings, Nothing More Than Feelings…

By Marta Oko-Riebau Note: In psychology there is a differentiation between the terms “feelings” and “emotions”, but for the purpose of this blog I will use these terms interchangeably.   According to George Orwell, “Not to expose your true feelings to......
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Assert Yourself!

By Marta Oko-Riebau This post is about your right to communicate your thoughts, wishes and intentions in a clear manner. It is about assertiveness. Most of us occasionally forget about this important right and then have to suffer the consequences......
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Worry Overkill

by Marta Oko-Riebau “I can’t get to sleep, I think about the implications of diving in too deep, and possibly the complications… Especially at night – I worry over situations I know will be all right, perhaps it’s just imagination…......
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Healthy Relationships: The Art of Compromises, Not Sacrifices

By Marta Oko-Riebau Ava always wanted to have a house with a garden and a Siamese cat that she would call “Sphinx”. Growing up at her parent’s apartment she was not allowed to have pets because her parents considered them......
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The Paradox of Risk

Matthew Campeau, M.A. What do you want, but are afraid to pursue? Perhaps it is a new career. Or the ability to speak your heart and mind, and not apologize. Perhaps you want to end a relationship to something or......
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Unbearable Lightness of Being

by Marta Oko-Riebau, MA Kundera’s “The Unbearable Lightness of Being” is one of my favorite books of all time. The title itself describes a state that many of us are just too familiar with. It is a state of dissatisfaction,......
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Couples Integrating Lives for Better Communication

Joel Silverman, MA LPC discusses couples and the importance of integrating the values and expectations that originated from their families of origin to improve communication and understanding.   Joel Silverman, MA LPC  works with people who have experienced trauma and......
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