Posts filed under: Stress Management

Improved Self-Image Starts with How You Think and Act

“Why are you drinking?” demanded the little prince. “So that I may forget,” replied the tippler. “Forget what?” inquired the little prince, who already was sorry for him. “Forget that I am ashamed,” the tippler confessed, hanging his head. “Ashamed......
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6 Tips for Creating Positive Change This Year

The New Year is a natural time for reflection, for taking stock of where we’ve been and looking ahead to where we’d like to be. More often than not, we are critical of the past and overwhelmed by the prospect......
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When December isn’t Merry and Bright

The holidays are a time for celebration and happy gatherings with family and friends. Some people, however, find that celebrating the holidays in the traditional sense brings anything but peace and joy. Rather than looking forward to it, this time......
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Why do we ‘set the stage’ around the holidays?

Have you ever noticed that most commercials around the holidays depict charming scenes of happy, well-dressed families and immaculate homes decorated to perfection, but most holiday movies center on something (or everything) going wrong?  The reality we strive for takes......
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The Sacrifice of Always Being Right

The need to be right is a common human trait. We all want to look our best in front of others, but when does that need cross over to being more destructive than constructive? And is it useful in the......
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10 Ways to Boost Your Confidence and Get What You Want

Our therapists often hear from clients that, in relationships of many kinds (with bosses, coworkers, significant others, partners, friends, family) they lack the confidence to ask for what they need. In an effort to avoid being seen as pushy, demanding......
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Q: Who needs therapy? A: Everyone!

Many people go around feeling that something is not quite right.  They aren’t as happy as they once were or don’t feel at ease the way they used to.  What they typically do to snap out of a slump no......
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Erika’s Story: When is a Suicide Threat Just a Threat?

September is National Suicide Prevention Month.  This week we take a look at another aspect of this serious mental health issue. Suicide.  The word evokes emotions ranging from sadness to guilt to anger.  Most of us can’t imagine what might......
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Labor Day: Honor Work and Work-Life Balance

Labor Day has become known as summer’s last hurrah, but do you know why we started celebrating this day?  Despite evidence to the contrary, Labor Day was not created to mark the unofficial end of summer or to clearly establish......
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Caregivers: Mom, Dad, your 23yo stay-at-home son…You take care of everyone. Who takes care of you?

The term “sandwich generation” was coined by social worker Dorothy Miller in 1981 to describe a new generation of women who were taking care of both their own children and one or both aging parents.  Since then, the definition has......
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Life as a House

Please enjoy this blog written by Karin Bustamante, MA, LPC, one of our therapists here at Maria Droste Counseling Center. Karin works with clients on a number of issues and areas, including life transitions, grief, anxiety, depression, emotional and/or physical......
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Create a Life You Don’t Need a Vacation From

“Stop creating a life you need a vacation from. Instead, move to where you want to live, do what you want to do, start what you want to start, and create the life you want to live today. This isn’t......
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How heavy is your glass?

This story went around the Internet a while ago:  A Harvard psychology professor gave a lecture.  She started by holding up a glass of water.  The students assumed she would ask the obvious question, is the glass half full or......
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The Psychology of Self-Harm

Self-harm Adolescence, that complex time of sorting out what it means to be an adult when you’re still a kid, can feel like a long string of missteps with, perhaps, a few intermittent successes.  This is often when we first......
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The Word of the Year: Mindfulness – What is it? What can it do for me?

What is mindfulness? “Mindfulness is a state of relaxed and alert attention of the present moment. It involves focusing just on what’s happening now,” writes clinical psychologist Sophie Henshaw. A lack of mindfulness manifests in several ways: constant racing thoughts,......
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Positive Outcomes: Stop carrying that invisible weight!

It’s a common theme these days: I have everything I need and things are generally okay, but I have an ongoing sense of unease… Something is missing or preventing me from fully experiencing life… I want to feel that there......
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New Year, New View: Resolve Your Motivation Behind New Year Resolutions

Whether you are among the 45% of Americans who usually make New Year’s resolutions, or you are in the 38% who never make them (Statistics Brain Research Institute, 2015), chances are at some point you have wanted to make a......
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Honoring Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.’s Legacy, Humanity, and Strength of Mind

“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” – Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. This year we honor Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. on January 18 with a......
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Give More, Spend Less: Not All Holiday Gifts Have to be Bought

Honor the Spirit of Giving The holiday gift-giving season is in full swing and got us thinking about ways to honor the true meaning of “giving.” (Hint: It has little to do with buying stuff that most people don’t really......
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How to Keep the Media from Increasing Your Stress: A Three Part Series

Over the next three posts, we’re going to look at media coverage in relation to mental health through the following questions: What are the general effects of the deluge of information media coverage feeds to the public? How does the......
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Worry Overkill

by Marta Oko-Riebau “I can’t get to sleep, I think about the implications of diving in too deep, and possibly the complications… Especially at night – I worry over situations I know will be all right, perhaps it’s just imagination…......
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Lessons from Spring

By Hazel Field Melmed, LCSW  A recent “Time Magazine” cover story explained the value of “mindfulness”, and they described the health benefits that come from being “in the moment.” In thinking about this important state of mind, it occurred to......
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Revisiting Stress Management Decoded

This last week has been filled with family obligations, work deadlines, new opportunities, and not enough down time. And… it’s not because I have been forced to do things that I didn’t want to be involved in, quite the contrary,......
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Making Friends with Time

by Debbie Zucker, LCSW An acquaintance of mine once said in passing, “I am learning to make friends with time.” Years later, this thought still echoes in me. What a concept, to befriend time! So many of us feel we’re......
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NO-Years Resolutions: Three Habits to Break in 2013

by Chris Lewis, Ed.S., LPC If you are reading this, there’s a decent chance most of us have survived the predicted apocalypse of Dec. 21, 2012. In any case, apparently YOU have, so now the question is “What’s up for......
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How Many More Days till the Holidays?

by Hazel Field Melmed, LCSW When we hear these words our hearts start to race and we might feel a knot in our stomach or experience some other stress reaction. Holidays are often difficult for some of us. This might......
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I Never Did THAT When I Was A Teenager!

by Beth Kelley, MA, LPC These days, teenagers are faced with challenges and temptations that have the potential for permanent and lasting consequences. There used to be a time when parents felt that Elvis Presley’s hips would be the undoing......
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Mindfulness: A Day in the Life…

by Lisa Ransford, LPC, CACII Consider this: you are a 28 year old parent of twin 5 year olds. The alarm clock goes off in the morning, and you hit the ground running. Coffee, newspaper, feed the dog, feed the......
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Lighten Up In Therapy!

by Karen Lenzi, MA, LPC It doesn’t need to be so hard. Therapy, life, change – it doesn’t have to be so dark. I’m not implying people don’t have very serious, very real difficulties and struggles – sometimes tragic in......
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Dr. Dog: How Your Pet Can Improve Your Health

by Jo Brilhart, RN, Psy.D, LPC People have bonded with animals for thousands of years. One of the oldest pieces of evidence of this was discovered in Israel when a 12,000 year old skeleton was found with its hand resting......
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